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Personal Development Library

Personal Development is a widely used term by thousands of bloggers. Some are wide-ranging articles about the body, mind, spirit and soul. Others are focused on life coaching, personal success and lifestyle. It’s a bit of a potpourri here, too, but you will find practical strategies, tips and tools that can make a difference in your life.

Please check out the Featured Articles from our Personal Development Library to get you started.

Perfection is the Enemy of Good … and of Done.

If you’re a recovering perfectionist like me, you may have learned by now that perfection can actually be the enemy of good.

It’s also the enemy of Done … if you’re letting your desire for perfection get in the way of getting something done NOW and continuing to improve it going forward.

The same approach applies to your goals for 2018. Don’t shoot for perfection.

Shoot for DONE and keep strengthening your goals over time.

{{ subscriber.first_name }}, do  you want to make that approach part of your 2018 plan?

If so, why don’t you join me for a free webinar with my colleague, Michael Hyatt, entitled Navigate Your Way to Success in 2018: 5 Blunders That Can Shipwreck Your Goals (And How to Avoid Them).

I’ll be right there with you, taking notes to do what I can to make 2018 the Best Year Ever.

I hope you’ll join me.

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Don’t Let This Be Your Fallback Plan in 2018

As you formulate your goals for 2018, don’t let this become your fallback plan.

Go for it. Aim at that Big Hairy Audacious Goal (“BHAG” in the parlance of Jim Collins of Good to Great fame).

What have you got to lose?

While you’re at it, don’t miss out on the free quiz to help you evaluate what you’d like to achieve in 2018 in all areas of your life. It expires on Tuesday.

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” ~Michelangelo

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The Two Principles You Need to Live a Life of Harmony

Does this get you thinking: Today is the Day that Tomorrow was Yesterday?

D o you live your life like Tomorrow Never Comes? If you don’t make the best of today, what else is left?

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It’s Time to Live a Life of Harmony

In addition to living life today and not waiting for the promises of tomorrow, I’m kicking the concept of a “balanced life” to the curb.

Instead, I’m looking for a Life of Harmony, which is a blend of two key principles:

  • A blend of work, home, friends and community, and
  • A commitment to live for today, not for the tomorrow that never comes.

As you prepare for your Best Year Ever in 2018, both of these principles must be present to achieve a Life of Harmony.

Principle 1: The Concept of a Balanced Life is Over

The concept of a balanced life is kaput because it’s based on the outdated assumption that there is a bright line between home and work.

But there really isn’t, is there?

With today’s technology … with both spouses working and sharing home and parenting duties … the line between work and home is fuzzy at best:

  • You have the capability to get work done when and where you want,
  • You don’t want to miss your kids’ soccer games or piano recitals,
  • You may prefer to put your kids to bed and work afterward, and
  • You want a life where all of your interests and needs are in “harmony”.

Once you embrace that concept, you can join me and kick that *balanced life* concept out the door.

Principle 2: Life is Short and Unpredictable

When death strikes close to home, this lesson rears its ugly head yet again.

Over the Christmas holidays several years ago, we lost my wife’s only and younger brother to a sudden and expected infection that even the greatest doctors at UCSF could not overcome.

Reflecting on that 19 day ordeal from his admission to the ICU until his Celebration of Life service, is a powerful lesson for all of us as we confront our mortality.

None of us had any idea this day was coming. He was relatively young at 65, healthy throughout his life and was planning to retire at the first of the year … with many plans that he never realized.

The acclaimed author, Sidney Sheldon, once wrote a book entitled, Tomorrow Never Comes.

It summarizes what we already know:

What was tomorrow only yesterday is now TODAY.

Continue reading for the inspiration to kickstart your life

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Who, me? I need to make a change? No, you’re the one who needs change. What?

There is at least One Irrefutable and Universal Truth

I t’s a pretty rare day when you don’t think about changing someone else, isn’t it?

If you could just get other people to change, to do things your way, to see the path as you do ….

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You may not know Tom Allender, but you’d be lucky if you did.

Several years ago, my wife mentioned that Tom had a reputation as a very insightful and heartfelt speaker and was appearing at the local parish in a few weeks to talk about relationships.

I was a little skeptical of getting “preached to” about relationships, but my wife was eager to attend, so I agreed to join her.

He was terrific and wasn’t at all “preachy” … and as he got started, you could see couples beginning to squirm, turning to each other and whispering versions of …

“How did he know that [about us]?”

… or “Have you already talked to him?” …

“I didn’t see him peeking in our window.” ….

What is that One Universal Truth?

It quickly became clear he could pinpoint the universality of the many things we face in our relationships with each other.

What I distinctly remember is his story about the married man who approached him one day to ask about an upcoming couples’ retreat:

Keep reading to learn a simple approach to change your life …

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Will people like what they see when they look in your window?

Do people see exactly what you want them to see when they look in your window?

I’m sure you will agree with this: You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.

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Back when I was a bank teller ….

Just after the dinosaurs became extinct at the end of the Cretaceous Period, my first assignment in the Management Training Program of the bank I joined right after college, was as a teller at one of their branches.

Some of you may never have been inside a bank branch, but back then, they were the center of your personal and business banking universe. There was no online capability and everything had to be done face-face.

I won’t try to make you jealous of my experience … making sure the transactions at my window, and in the entire branch, were balanced before anyone could leave the branch … the often tedious nature of handling deposits or standing around waiting for one … but I remember vividly one of the most powerful lessons I learned on my first day:

If you care about what people see when they look in your window, keep reading

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Have you ever been so broke you had to sell your dog at the local 7-Eleven?

This may seem like a very strange blog post for a site dedicated to leadership. But not really.

N ot if you’re committed to managing your life, controlling your day and fighting for what you believe.

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Recently, I saw a profile of Sylvester Stallone and, serendipitously, stumbled across several articles and interviews about him at the same time. One of the stories was featured on CBS Sunday Morning which featured him and spotlighted his movie, Creed.

In the process, I learned that Stallone broke through with his own writing and NOT with his acting. After some of his early acting failures, he began writing, relentlessly.

He wrote almost 30 scripts.

He says 29 of them were crappy.

Rocky Balboa – Stallone’s breakout role

The 30th script was for Rocky, a $500 Million blockbuster movie … but as interest began to build in his script, he saw this as a unique opportunity to kickstart his career.

How did he do it?

What can we learn from Sylvester Stallone and his iconic characters?

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Have you got my back … or will you fold your tent when the going gets tough?

Resourcefulness has nothing to do with access to resources.

W e have more resources than ever before. That’s not what makes us resourceful.

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Early this morning, I headed to a favorite place just down the street to bring home a couple of lattes for my wife and I.

I think Jefferson or Franklin or another of our forefathers was looking down at that moment, shaking his head in wonder. He looked a little disgusted at our lack of self-sufficiency.

Would You Work This Hard for a Cup of Coffee?

Our ancestors would have awakened in woolen underwear, stepped onto a cold wooden or dirt floor, and would have gone outside to chop some wood to start a fire in the cook stove or set a campfire with a few nearby rocks.

Don’t mistake resources for resourcefulness. Keep reading ….

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