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Wednesday, March 22nd, 2017

The Single Word That Dooms Every Apology

Last week, when we discussed the The 6 Powerful Benefits of Admitting Your Mistakes, we focused more on the admission than the apology.

You might think the apology is the easy part of admitting your mistakes, but it’s often more flawed than the mistake itself.

 

The Admission AND The Apology

You might think the apology portion of the equation is super simple, but haven’t we seen countless examples of apologies that were defensive and full of excuses?

How many apologies have you heard … or offered … that after the apology starts, it continues with … “but ….” and the beginning of an explanation for why it wasn’t really your fault, there were extenuating circumstances beyond your control, blah blah blah.

Do you think the offended party inhaled that as the most humble and meaningful apology they ever heard … or did they more likely walk away thinking you weren’t really that sorry?

Typically, apologies are the ideal preamble to our admission of mistakes, and there are three critical elements that must be present.

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Monday, March 20th, 2017

Monday’s Quote of the Week

"A man would do nothing, if he waited until he could do it so well that no one would find fault with what he has done." -- Cardinal Newman

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Tuesday, March 14th, 2017

The 6 Powerful Benefits of Admitting Your Mistakes

Go ahead. Raise your hand if you’ve never made a mistake

If your hand isn’t up, how willing are you to own and admit your mistakes?

What’s the Difference Between a Lie and a Mistake?

If you make a mistake and are not corrected, this is called a mistake. ~ Confucius

Before we get too far, let’s distinguish between failing to admit a mistake and actually lying.

I’m not sure of the provenance of this nugget, but it helps to make the distinction:

  • When an error is made unintentionally, it is a mistake.
  • When an error is made intentionally, it is a lie.
  • When a mistake is pointed out, but still clung to, it becomes a lie.

This is NOT about lying or covering up illicit activity, say, the example of the Volkswagen diesel emissions scandal, which was a deliberate effort to cheat U.S. emissions standards. The Bernie Madoff Ponzi Scheme and the Lance Armstrong doping scandal are among the countless other events born with a deliberate lie to conceal illicit activity.

Today, I’m going to show you why admitting your mistakes … promptly and unprompted … is the only way to Become a More Effective Leader.

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Monday, March 13th, 2017

Monday’s Quote of the Week

If you don't have any shadows, you're not standing in the light. ~ Lady Gaga

You can interpret this in many ways … but for me, it means that it’s okay if some things don’t go well or that you make mistakes.

If you are in the Spotlight of Leadership, whether as an artist or a business leader, you will only cast a shadow if you let the light shine upon you and are willing to be authentic and imperfect.

So, get out there!

Stand under the hot lights.

Stand upright.

Face the music.

Do your best.

Belt it out … and let the shadows fall.

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Wednesday, March 8th, 2017

The 7 Attributes of an Olympic Class Organization

Being a winner … and staying a winner … sounds a lot easier than it is.

MMost of us who played any sport over the years has learned there’s a very fine line between victory and “almost.”

The 7 Attributes of an Olympic Class Organization

How Fast is a Flash of Time?

Most of us know that the difference among the greatest athletes in any sport is a very narrow margin.

While there is an overabundance of trophy-giving these days just for participating, we know that people will soon tire of just “participating” if they are never “winning”.

Can you identify what’s common among the items I’ve described below?

  • It lasts about 300 to 400 milliseconds.
  • It occurs about 10 to 20 times per minute.
  • Over the course of a day, excluding about 8 hours of sleep, it amounts to about an hour and 20 minutes on average, a fair chunk of time in our waking day.
  • If you consider that the universe is about 14 billion years old, it lasts about 54,000 years would pass by during any given span of those milliseconds. 

Some might argue that we can’t see anything during such a short period.

What period is that?

Simply the blink of your eye.

What’s the Difference between Victory & Defeat?

keep reading to get the Olympic Attributes Assessment Form…

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Monday, March 6th, 2017

Monday’s Quote of the Week

"Mastery is a mindset: It requires the capacity to see your abilities not as finite, but as infinitely improvable." Daniel Pink, author of Drive: The Surprising Truth about What Motivates Us

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Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

The 3 Words You Never Want to Hear: “Prepare for Impact” | 5 Mission Critical Instruments To Keep Your Business Airborne

What would you do if you heard these 3 words?

More importantly, what can you do to make sure you never hear them at all?

What You Can’t See CAN Hurt You.

You probably remember the chilling three-word statement issued by Captain Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger, memorialized in the movie starting Tom Hanks which re-enacts the incredible 2009 successful emergency landing of an Airbus A320 full of passengers on the Hudson River:

Prepare For Impact

On another level, the recent movie, Jackie, which centers around the period immediately following the assassination of President John F. Kennedy in 1963, reminded me of different airplane tragedy that turned out differently, claiming the life of Jackie’s beloved son, JFK Jr.

He wasn’t a professional pilot like Captain Sullenberger, and unfortunately, overreached his capability as a private pilot when he met his death in inclement weather on the way to Martha’s Vineyard with his wife and her sister in the summer of 1999.

What Could JFK, Jr. Have Done Differently?

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Monday, February 27th, 2017

Monday’s Quote of the Week

It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome. ~William James

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